After my talks, we often have engaging Q&A sessions, especially when it comes to motivation and change. Participants ask so many interesting questions that we often run out of time to address them all in depth. Since these topics clearly resonate with many people and similar questions pop up at other events, I decided to create a "Motivation FAQ" to explore these questions thoroughly.
This time, we’re diving into an intriguing question and challenge:
“What do I do when I feel motivated, but my colleagues are completely resistant?”
Oh yes, that can be incredibly frustrating – you’re brimming with motivation, ready to go, and yet you’re faced with colleagues who seem to be hitting the brakes. This presents two challenges: first, maintaining your own motivation, and second, understanding and maybe even alleviating their resistance. Here are a few ideas on how to approach this:
Empathy Over Pressure
Start by trying to understand why your colleagues are resisting. Often, fears, insecurities, or feelings of being overwhelmed are at the root. Instead of “pushing” them, it can help to simply ask questions like, “What’s worrying you right now?” or “What are your concerns about this?” By understanding what’s holding them back, you’ll be better equipped to address their concerns and meet them where they are without forcing the issue.
Highlight the Benefits
Sometimes, people don’t immediately see the value of a change or a new project. Help them understand what’s in it for them – but avoid coming across as preachy. Instead of saying, “We have to do this,” try something like, “Imagine what it would be like if we pull this off and it works. What would that mean for all of us?” Show them how the outcome could benefit everyone.
Be a Role Model for Motivation
You don’t have to turn into an entertainer, but if you’re genuinely motivated and enthusiastic about something, it often becomes contagious. People can sense authentic enthusiasm, which might make them reconsider their stance. The key is not to desperately try to convince them – that can backfire. Just be yourself and show them how much you’re enjoying the process.
Small Steps Over Giant Leaps
Resistance often stems from seeing changes or new projects as enormous, intimidating mountains – or as trudging through heavy, cold snow. Break the mountain down into smaller, more manageable hills, or make snowshoe hiking sound fun! When the steps feel achievable, your colleagues might feel less overwhelmed. Start small and give them a sense of control as they progress step by step.
Find Common Ground
Ask yourself where you’re all on the same page. Maybe there’s one aspect of the project that everyone can agree on. Start there. Once you’re all moving together, it often becomes easier to chip away at the resistance.
At the end of the day, you can’t force anyone to be motivated – but you can create an environment where motivation becomes more likely. And most importantly, protect your own motivation. Don’t let the energy of others drag you down (beware of the crabs in the bucket!). Stay true to your drive. It might take time, but if you stay consistent, your colleagues might just come on board eventually.
